Sunday, March 9, 2014

FINDING DAVID

Almost 47 years ago, I gave birth to a baby boy.  I was just 16 and was forced to give that child up for adoption.  Twenty some years later, I was contacted by Lutheran Social Services in Minneapolis, Minnesota saying only that my child had been adopted.  I had no clue where, when or anything and letters to them went unanswered.



In the 1980's, adoption files were opened for birth parents to search.  I only posted in the passive registry because I did not want to disrupt anyone's life.  I wanted to be found if I was being searched for.



On Friday, March 6, 2014, I had a friend request from a Stefani on Facebook.  I ignored it as I did not know her.  The next day, March 7, 2014, I had an email from her.  She explained that her husband, David, had been searching for his birth mother for years.  They thought the information I had posted matched.  They did not have an exact birthday for David but because it was with three days of the date of my child's birth, they contacted me.



The rest is history.   Upon seeing pictures of David, there was no doubt he was my son.  He had documents from Lutheran Services too.  He had no idea how he, being born in North Vancouver, BC, ended up in Minneapolis.  He was adopted at eleven months old.



Until very late on Friday, Stefani and I talked by Facebook chat.  All the pieces fell into place.  We invited Jason, my son born of the same father three years after David's birth, into the conversation.  Jason and David have bonded unbelievably, joking back and forth.  The next night, the conversation grew.  We invited Glenn, David and Jason's father into the conversation as well as Graeme, David's half brother and Jennifer his half sister on the other side.

We joked and laughed.  We exchanged information.  Weird - none of us drink coffee; David hasn't had grandparents since 1983 and now he has a grandfather on my side and a grandmother on the other side;  he is a Pepsi addict like us; on and on.

David and his wife are thrilled.  We are beyond happy.  His adopted father is happy for him and grateful that I kept trying.  The cousins, aunts and uncles and even my father are all happy for us.

Welcome David, Stefani, Elizbeth (Lizzy) and Nickolas.
 
 
 


8 comments:

Jan Mains said...

Brings tears to my eyes. What a wonderful story. Thanks so much for sharing it.

Jim and Sandie said...

He definitely looks like his Mama. What a truly wonderful story. And what a good looking family. I am so happy and excited for all of you.

Paul and Marsha Weaver OCT. 17, 2009 said...

WOW...what a story. Congratulations to all of you, and my God bless this addition to your family!

Wanderin' said...

This definitely does bring tears. I know you've looked for him. We talked about this not too long ago. This was your dream then. I'm glad your dream came true.

Daryl White said...

That is amazing! Congratulations to all of you. Such a heart warming story.

Sue B said...

such an amazing story..glad that it had a happy 'ending'..or should I say a 'happy beginning'!

Traveling Along said...

Amazing story. So happy for you all.

Linda Sand said...

I am happy for you, too. It is wonderful when family succeeds in reconnecting.